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The phrase, “a life by design,” does not mean handbags and luxury cars. To me and my family, it means making conscious choices to live the life we want according to our morals and goals. We choose to not settle for the hand we’ve been given. We have decided to make some serious sacrifices in order to make our life successful on our own terms.
When my husband separated from the Air Force, we moved back to California to be close to our family and raise our daughters in our home town. Unfortunately, the transition to civilian life hasn’t been as smooth as we had hoped for. There is no out processing briefing that could prepare us for a lousy job market, employers that change pay and cut benefits at the drop of a hat, or sky rocketing real estate prices. These hurdles have occurred while we work to overcome anger due to PTSD and health issues from previous deployments.
Instead of accepting a new life of struggle and constant defeat, we set our sites on achieving our goals without sacrificing what is most important to us- raising our daughters.
So, we packed up and moved into our 30ft. motorhome. Two adults, a five year old, a three year old, and a great dane. And while everything seemed to be falling apart around us, we are picking up the pieces, determined to not only survive, but thrive.
To us, a life by design means that I remain a stay at (motor)home mom and home school our girls. Raising them near the family and friends that we separated from the military to live near. It means allowing Jason the time and freedom to find a career he is passionate about. A career that may not initially provide us a way to purchase a home, but does provide him with a purpose, camaraderie, time to enjoy his family, and pride in all he does.
While we take these things seriously, we are always laughing at ourselves (probably a little too much), learning from our mistakes, and leaning on God to guide us where we should be.
Just making one conscious choice today can be a step forward into living life you want! No obstacle is too big to overcome.
I hope that those reading our story feel inspired to make difficult choices to live the life they want. By sharing our battle with PTSD and other post service struggles, our ultimate goal is to help others in similar situations and give back to those who have served us so honorably.
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“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”- JER 29:11